Here is the church, here is the steeple, open the door and…uh oh, where’s all the teen people? It’s been observed that many teens graduate from church when they graduate from high school, but just how many do so, why do they do so, and what should we do about it?
First, how many are leaving? Different studies show different results. Figures range from 40% to 88%. That’s quite a margin! Some of the studies appear to be denomination-specific, and it’s not clear that the polling methodology is sound in every case. The 2007 study from LifeWay Research appears to be the most thorough, accurate, and sound report on the subject to date. They found that 70% of teens stop attending church for at least a year between the ages of 18-22. That sound pretty bad, and it is. But it is not as bad as some prophets of doom have made it out to be.
While upwards of 70% of Christian teens stop attending church upon becoming an adult, it’s not because all of them are giving up their faith. In fact, according to the LifeWay study, 1/3 return by the time they are 30 (which means 53% of churched teens will still be in church by age 30), and another 30% begin attending church again once a month or less. When LifeWay asked church dropouts why they stopped attending church, 97% cited some change in life situation such as their work schedule, not being close to a church, or being too busy (many go to college, after all). Of course, 20% say that they intended to stop attending once they graduated, and 27% confessed that they just wanted a break from church (respondents could select more than one reason).
Pastor and/or church-related issues contributed to the departure of 58% of respondents. Many felt the people in church were too hypocritical, or simply did not feel connected to the people. Differences in religious, ethical, or political beliefs were a factor for 52% of teens. About 1 in 10 (12%) stopped attending church because they were “unsure of the reasons behind my faith.” Only 7% said they stopped believing in God.
While not every teen that stops attending church does so because s/he no longer believes Christianity is true, this isn’t to dismiss the fact that a sizable minority of teens do abandon their faith after high school, often for intellectual reasons. Sociologists of religion, Christian Smith and Melinda Lundquist Denton, wrote a book titled Soul Searching: The Religious and Spiritual Lives of American Teenagers based on their research of teens’ religious beliefs, practices, and outlook. They asked teens dropouts, “Why is it that you are no longer religious?” Smith and Denton recorded the answers as given, and then categorized them by type. The largest percentage — 32% — cited intellectual skepticism about the truthfulness of Christianity as the main reason they abandoned it (1 out of 3)! The next closest response was “I don’t know,” coming in at 22%.
What do we need to do to prevent further bleeding? Several things can be done. First, I think we need to make apologetics a vital part of youth ministry. We need to do more than indoctrinate and entertain our young people. They need to be inoculated against the intellectual attacks often leveled against Christianity in the university and beyond.
We also need to show them how Christianity is relevant to their lives. We need to live the faith we preach, and we need to actively involve them in the fabric of the church. We need to cultivate their spiritual life, helping them to make their own connection to God so that Christianity is their religion, and not just their parents’. We need to help them make spiritual disciplines such as prayer and Bible reading part of their daily routine. And given the fact that many church dropouts return at the behest of their friends and family (60%), we would do well to encourage our young people to continue attending church during their post-graduation years, to help prevent their leaving in the first place.
May 7, 2009 at 8:46 am
Excellent post, Jason.
Apologetics has been neglected for far too long among Apostolics. If our children are going to attend public school, they need to be equipped and prepared to withstand the attacks upon their faith that is bound to occur in that arena. Even in a Christian school environment, there should be courses addressing the defense of our faith.
More importantly, as you rightly observe, the godly example manifested by parents and church leaders will probably do far more to influence our children than textbook arguments will. Intellectual precision should not be expected to adequately replace true Christianity in the home or at church. Winning arguments doesn’t necessarily win hearts.
In Christ.
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May 7, 2009 at 11:17 am
Dale,
Absolutely agree. Christianity is both a heart and a head religion, so we need to cultivate both in the lives of our young people.
Jason
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May 7, 2009 at 12:27 pm
Dale? Who is Dale?
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May 7, 2009 at 3:06 pm
Apparently, you are. 🙂 Sorry, Dale left a comment on another string. I had his name on my brain.
Jason
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May 11, 2009 at 4:16 am
Excellent article, I’m trying to get an “apologetics for the lay person” at our church, as I feel there is a lacking of apologetics being taught. The only problem is that many people feel that you get nowhere with intellectual arguments which according to intellectuals such as Dr William Lane Craig is not true. Thanks for the post which will bolden my argument that apologetics is needed in the church!
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May 11, 2009 at 11:45 am
Scott,
Yes, there is a dearth in this area. Most people are not even familiar with what apologetics is–including many pastors.
I really get upset when I hear people saying that arguments don’t win anyone to Christ. That is contradicted by common sense, as well as by experience. I can name a host of people who converted to Christianity as a result of apologetics. Besides, if people cannot be persuaded to Christianity by arguments, why are so many Christians persuaded away from Christianity by arguments? It’s because we are rational creatures, and our beliefs are affected by arguments.
Jason
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February 18, 2010 at 10:52 pm
While I agree with the jist of arguments for apologetics in the article and comments, I don’t think that apologetics are the primary nor most efficient way to reach today’s generation. (Though I did first come to church due to apologetic teaching)
My generation doesn’t suffer from a lack of knowledge, but rather from too much of it. I feel our problem is rarely a lack of good teaching, but more often an apathy born of irrelevance. How can something be true if I can’t perceive its active agency in the world around me?
Rationalism is the excuse. The truth more often is that the truth isn’t found in the church. Church’s are more likely to be museums and facades of clean living, rather than messy hospitals that dig into the sin, the brokeness, the hypocrisy and shame of their own congregation with honesty, openness and gentleness.
My thought:
The resolve borne by habit is weaker than that borne by conviction. Habit comes from repetition, Conviction from Transformation. I need my leaders and parents to show me how God transformed them.
Just my thoughts, though I feel like many of the previous comments are also legitimate.
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February 18, 2010 at 11:47 pm
Chirag,
I would agree. The Gospel, not apologetics, is the way to reach sinners. But if and when there are intellectual objections to the Gospel that create barriers to faith, we need to be prepared to remove them. In this post, however, I wasn’t even speaking about reaching the lost, but retaining the saved/churched. If 1/3 of those who stop attending church do so because of intellectual skepticism, we need to address that. If we inoculate them against these ideas before they are exposed to them, we will help stop some of the bleeding. Are some just using the intellect as an excuse to leave? Probably. After all, the root of our problem is moral, not intellectual (Rom 1). But there are those who cannot in good conscience continue believing (or come to believe) in Christianity because they think its been proven false. We need to help those people see that this is not true. If once they see the evidence they still don’t give their life to Christ, then we know that they are just using “reason” as a facade for their moral rebellion. But we’ll never know, and they’ll never know which is which unless we are prepared to give them the reasons.
While our generation has a lot of knowledge, they don’t have a lot of knowledge about spiritual matters. Even the most educated among us make some of the silliest blunders when it comes to thinking about spiritual things. We need sound doctrinal teaching and apologetics more than ever in our churches, and in our evangelism. Just like yourself, there are others out there who are willing to be persuaded of the truth of Christianity, and will put their faith in what they know to be true about Jesus, once they indeed know it to be true.
Jason
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March 29, 2011 at 5:11 pm
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December 14, 2013 at 7:40 am
One of the main reasons young people leave church is because in many cases there is no ministry for them after they age into their 20’s and beyond. In the church I used to go to there was a teenage class in Sunday School but the next class was the young married class. People don’t tend to marry as young these days, and churches need to have a vibrant ministry for older singles.
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