Here is an important excerpt from an article by Drew Dyck, discussing one finding from his personal research into the question of why so many teens leave the church:
Another unsettling pattern emerged during my interviews. Almost to a person, the leavers with whom I spoke recalled that, before leaving the faith, they were regularly shut down when they expressed doubts. Some were ridiculed in front of peers for asking “insolent questions.” Others reported receiving trite answers to vexing questions and being scolded for not accepting them. One was slapped across the face, literally.
At the 2008 American Sociological Association meeting, scholars from the University of Connecticut and Oregon State University reported that “the most frequently mentioned role of Christians in de-conversion was in amplifying existing doubt.” De-converts reported “sharing their burgeoning doubts with a Christian friend or family member only to receive trite, unhelpful answers.”
Churches often lack the appropriate resources. We have programs geared for gender- and age-groups and for those struggling with addictions or exploring the faith. But there’s precious little for Christians struggling with the faith.
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There’s nothing wrong with pizza and video games, nor with seeker-sensitive services, nor with low-commitment small groups that introduce people to the Christian faith. But these cannot replace serious programs of discipleship and catechism.
Youth workers pay particular attention to this. Not only do we need to provide a safe environment for kids to express their doubts, but we need to be equipped to help them find answers. If we chide them for asking difficult questions, or fail to provide them with the answers, it’s no wonder so many walk away from the faith. Many fine Christians have thought about the kind of intellectual challenges your young people are contemplating, and they have provided thoughtful answers. We must equip ourselves with this knowledge so we can help our Christian youth work through their doubts. Indeed, we should not wait for someone to express their doubts before we offer them the answer. We should proactively communicate this information before they have reason to doubt. If we engage in intellectual inoculation it would result in fewer spiritual surgeries (or casualties) down the road. It’s always much easier to prevent the fires of doubt than to put out a blaze once it has started. While some youth will surely leave the Christian faith due to moral rebellion, let it not be said that they left the Christian faith because they were not persuaded that it is true.
March 30, 2011 at 1:47 am
I’ve just read a book stating that the reason for the growing doubt among youngsters is that their childhood beliefs are not guided to grow so that they can develop a mature, well-reflected and maintainable faith.
When the intellect takes a leap faith does not seem to be able to take every sane person would leave faith behind. It has to be possible for young people to experience the brilliance of the biblical message. This can only be possible, if they are taken serious in their deep doubts which normally concern every aspect of life and not only faith and can, when they are overcome, leave some of the most satisfying fruits in life.
For a lot of people I know, a renewal of faith marked the end of adolescence. For whatever reasons, the Lord seems to often pull people towards him at the end of long periods of doubt and spiritual hunger, making them strong disciples in an instant and turning them into mature followers, willing to consciously devote the rest of their lives to the Lord. This can only be achieved, if there is room to grow for young people. If there are no answers to questions, there is no room to grow.
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March 31, 2011 at 2:09 pm
I don’t think it has anything to do with intellect as much as experience. Teens are told Jesus loves them in many churches but the people in the church do not show that love and do not tell the teen that they can experience God’s love first hand in a life transforming way. I’ve talked to lots of teens that know that something was not right yet they do it anyway. Honest questions are ok but some use science as a cover to continue in sin. Just my .02 worth. I’ve wrestled with questions before and have ministered to youth with questions but when they are not looking for the truth and are not concerned about a vibrant relationship with God then there is nothing we can do.
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March 31, 2011 at 2:37 pm
cs,
There’s a lot of truth in what you say. I would agree that most teens leave Christianity because of bad experiences and because of their desire to live immoral lives (but even bad experiences is often just a smoke screen to justify their desire to engage in immoral behavior). And yet studies have shown that a sizable minority leave primarily for intellectual reasons. Granted, their natural moral rebellion may all-too-easily latch on to intellectual objections and run with them as an excuse for their behavior, but the fact of the matter is that a lot of teens leave the faith because they can no longer believe Christianity is actually true. They are bombarded with anti-Christian messages and arguments from within the educational system and the culture at large. Unless those arguments and objections are answered, they will slowly decay their faith. Even if teens are just using intellectual doubt as a reason for their moral rebellion (something I don’t think is true in all cases), as the church we should make sure that they cannot hide behind a supposed lack of evidence for Christianity by providing them with the answers to these objections before they even encounter them. If you empty their intellectual revolver of its bullets, they will either be spared from spiritual suicide, or at the very least they can’t cite intellectual bullet wounds for their ultimate spiritual death.
Jason
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March 31, 2011 at 4:59 pm
Are youth today truly leaving, and therefore losing, all faith in Jesus Christ, or are they leaving and therefore losing faith in His church?
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March 31, 2011 at 5:08 pm
Both. But to be honest with you, people who lose faith in the church often require very little reason to lose faith. Given the existence of thousands of Christian denominations and hundreds of local assemblies, it has been my experience that most people who leave the church due to bad experiences with the church never bother to check out what the experience is like in other congregations or denominations.
Jason
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April 1, 2011 at 2:40 pm
I agree with Aaron, I think a lot of this has to do with the church. I have known a lot of youth who simply were not extended the hand of grace by those in the church when they needed it the most. Instead they are given the hand of condemnation and eventually they begin to resent this or start feeling they are unworthy of God. I know this cannot be said for every situation, but I strongly believe that there are many situations like this. I think a lot of it has to do with the church not showing grace and extending help when youth face difficult challenges or fall into sin. I would also venture to say that the more “holy” a church thinks she is, the more condemnation they will probably heap on that individual. This is typical in churches insist on adherence to very strict standards in order to maintain church membership.
Naz
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April 1, 2011 at 2:56 pm
Naz,
Again, I agree. I just don’t think this accounts for all of the cases. There are those who leave due primarily to intellectual doubt. Most times there will be a mixture of causes, but I imagine that there are cases in which people have been hurt by the church, but they remain Christian and continue going to church because they think Christianity is true. But when they encounter arguments against Christianity, it becomes all too easy for them (without having those arguments answered) to put 2+2 together (intellectual doubt + personal hurt) and ultimately leave the faith/church.
Jason
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April 4, 2011 at 3:32 pm
I think teens are leaving because they spend eight hours a day, five days a week in public schools which seem bent on attacking their faith.
I live in California, it may not be so bad in other states, but here, even our State Standards for public school express the desire to water down “passionate” faith because it starts wars.
I find it hard to believe there are churches unwilling or unable to answer questions. But if people are treated like I am sometimes, with people on line posting thinly veiled accusations which are answered only to be ignored and new accusations thrown…patience only lasts so long. You start to get to the point of casting pearls to those who would tear you apart. It’s amazing how they actually will want to fairly quickly.
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