Just this past Monday, Jillian Keenan wrote an article in Slate titled “Legalize Polygamy!” She writes:
While the Supreme Court and the rest of us are all focused on the human right of marriage equality, let’s not forget that the fight doesn’t end with same-sex marriage. We need to legalize polygamy, too. … Divorce, remarriage, surrogate parents, extended relatives, and other diverse family arrangements mean families already come in all sizes—why not recognize that legally? … As women, we really can make our own choices. We just might choose things people don’t like. If a woman wants to marry a man, that’s great. If she wants to marry another woman, that’s great too. If she wants to marry a hipster, well—I suppose that’s the price of freedom. And if she wants to marry a man with three other wives, that’s her damn choice.
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All marriages deserve access to the support and resources they need to build happy, healthy lives, regardless of how many partners are involved. Arguments about whether a woman’s consensual sexual and romantic choices are “healthy” should have no bearing on the legal process. And while polygamy remains illegal, women who choose this lifestyle don’t have access to the protections and benefits that legal marriage provides.
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The definition of marriage is plastic. Just like heterosexual marriage is no better or worse than homosexual marriage, marriage between two consenting adults is not inherently more or less “correct” than marriage among three (or four, or six) consenting adults. Though polygamists are a minority—a tiny minority, in fact—freedom has no value unless it extends to even the smallest and most marginalized groups among us. So let’s fight for marriage equality until it extends to every same-sex couple in the United States—and then let’s keep fighting. We’re not done yet.
Ms. Keenan is not saying something radical. She’s merely pointing out what others choose to ignore: If A should be legal because of X, and X also applies to B, then B should also be legal. If same-sex marriage becomes legal, it is virtually inevitable that polygamy will follow. If marriage can be made to mean anything, it will become anything and everything.
April 18, 2013 at 5:13 am
Thanks for bringing this to our attention.
By the way, word out of the Netherlands (Leeuwarden) is that there is a lobby group called “Martijn” there pushing for the legalization of adult-child marriages!
We’ve got to stop this insanity.
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April 18, 2013 at 8:01 am
As you pointed out at the start Jason! Although given homosexual marriage, I can’t see any argument against polygamy and for discussion sakes, I think it best to use one woman multiple husbands (thereby getting past the feminism group). Do you think it will go as far as bestiality? or do you think it will stop with “any/all consenting human adults”?
@No Apologies Allowed – I don’t think it will have much tract since most laws state that minors cannot consent to sexual intercourse and so it’ll have to descend a long way for adult/minor marriage. (Gypsy marriages at 14 cause most members of society an issue)
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April 18, 2013 at 10:05 am
Scott, given the moral ethic of our day — “as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone” — I don’t see what principled reason people can have for prohibiting it. After all, we’re told we are just animals. If there is nothing special about humans, and sex is just sex, then why not have sex with animals as long as neither you nor the animal is being harmed and both are “consenting”? Sexual degradation knows no end. And in a culture that wants to permit everything that has traditionally been thought of as evil, under the banner of freedom, I wouldn’t be surprised if bestiality gains a legal foothold in Western culture in the coming years.
Jason
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April 18, 2013 at 12:43 pm
I don’t think it’s really possible for a child or a pet to consent in the same way as another adult, so adult/child marriage and pet/owner marriage are fundamentally different things.
As to polygamous marriages, the additional people make things a bit more complicated. Suppose we have three people A,B, and C. Is every person married to every other person, if so, what happens if A and C don’t want to be married any more but both still want to be married to B? When divorces happen splitting things up would get more complicated. Etc.
Legalizing polygamy would certainly be a lot more complicated that legalizing gay marriage
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August 15, 2013 at 6:36 pm
Considering the pathetic state of affairs when it comes to monogamous marriage..i’m not sure there is much ground for you all to stand on. I’m sure a polygamous marriage would be much more complicated than an ordinary run of the mill one, but that doesn’t mean it can’t be good, just as a monogamous marriage can be satisfying under the right circumstances.
Of course there are limits to what will be considered an appropriate legal union, i’m unaware of any who want a completely open definition. I haven’t heard anyone advocating bestiality, nor have I heard anything about the adult-minor side of things.
Humans are animals. Sex is sex. It isn’t degrading to admit that. Are you ashamed to share genetic material with the beautiful creatures which roam this planet? Sex can have deeply emotional elements, but it can also be an experience shared between consenting adults. It doesn’t make the experience any less for that.
You don’t have to agree with gay-marriage, you don’t have to agree with polygamy, the only people who should have a say are those involved in that relationship. There are going to be changes, and you won’t be able to stop them. And in the end, society will be better off for it.
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