A lot of people grew up seeing their parents divorce and feeling the consequences, and now they don’t want to get married because they fear that the relationship will end in divorce. That makes as much sense as saying “My parents bought a car and wrecked it, so I don’t ever want to buy a car. I’ll just rent a car instead.” If they fear having a failed relationship, then they should forego romantic relationships altogether because any relationship can end. It’s not as though it only hurts when it’s a legal marriage. The piece of paper doesn’t create the pain. But actually, getting married makes it more likely that the relationship will last because marriage entails a higher level of commitment and legal entanglements.
Perhaps the primary concern is not the ending of the relationship, but the ending of a relationship involving kids. If that’s the case, then they should not be avoiding marriage per se, but having children. If they don’t want kids, they can get “fixed.” Foregoing marriage because your parents’ marriage did not work out just doesn’t make sense.
Thinking to Believe 
October 13, 2020 at 12:48 pm
Cars can’t rape their male owners in court. Try a better analogy.
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October 15, 2020 at 12:28 pm
What is that supposed to mean? And what does rape have to do with this post?
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October 15, 2020 at 2:19 pm
LOL your analogy daily to factor in the terrible risk men take in getting married, because the law gives the wife ALL of the power in the relationship, and she can easily ruin his life and walk away with half of the wealth and all of the kids. There is no corresponding risk in buying a car; if the car is unsatisfactory, the man doesn’t have to go to court to get free and purchase a better car.
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October 15, 2020 at 2:39 pm
I agree —– you need a better analogy. marriage is a bad deal for men especially if the man takes Jesus’ Commands about marriage seriously and the woman doesn’t.
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October 15, 2020 at 9:51 pm
You guys are missing the boat. If those are the consequences that make you fear marriage, then how does not getting married solve them? If you don’t get married but have sex with someone, kids may result, and you’ll have a custody battle on your hands. You don’t need to be married to have a custody battle. And in many states (and perhaps most), there is a common law marriage, so if you are with a woman for any length of time, your relationship will be treated like a marriage by the law. You can still lose part of your wealth. So what is there to fear about marriage in particular, then? If these sorts of fears keep you from getting married, then they should keep you single and celibate too. I don’t see that happening, however. People are foregoing marriage but they are not foregoing relationships and sex.
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October 16, 2020 at 1:03 pm
it’s simple …….. if you don’t get married you don’t lose your children, 50% of your stuff and may be have to pay alimony and child support for years.
and if the benefits, which can be so easily taken away by your spouse, marital sex and children are out weighed by the risks why get married ? that’s the point.
that doesn’t mean you have to fornicate/father illegitimate children.
it’s been a while since I researched so my numbers might be wrong but from memory —- 50% of first marriages end in divorce and that number sky rockets with each additional one. even with religious people 20% of first marriages end in divorce.
those odds to me are outrageous and I would be very cautious about getting married if I was single man these days —- it’s a logical and reasonable conclusion based on the cost/benefit analysis for many men.
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