Have any of you ever been in the situation where your pastor called on you during his preaching to confirm something he said, but you didn’t agree with his statement?
Given my theological education, every so often I’ve had pastors of mine call on me to affirm something they’ve said. They’ll say something like “Would you agree with that Brother Dulle?” or “Is that right, Brother Dulle?” Luckily, I haven’t been in the place where I could not affirm the statement in some sense, but I’m sure it will happen one day and I don’t know what to say. Saying, “Actually, no” would cause a scene, and make both of us look bad. And yet, I wouldn’t want to appear to agree with something I don’t agree with either.
I’ve contemplated using the line Jesus used with Pilate, “You say so,” but I don’t think that’s going to cut it. Perhaps the best one I’ve come up with is “Perhaps.” That signals that I’m not necessarily on board with the statement, but I’m not declaring it wrong either. Does anyone have a good one-line response that could allow me to wiggle out of the situation tactfully, honestly, and graciously?



Christians think their religion is true, and everybody else’s religion is false. They think you have to believe in Jesus to be saved. How arrogant, right? Actually, no. While there may be some Christians who are truly arrogant, thinking Christianity is the only true religion is not arrogant in itself. When you think about it, everyone one of us thinks we are right in the things we believe. If we didn’t think what we believed was true, we wouldn’t believe it. After all, nobody believes things they think are false! Of course, we could be mistaken in our beliefs. What we think is true may actually be false, but everybody who believes something believes it because they think it is true. And by force of logic, if what we believe is true, all contrary views must be false. So if arrogance is defined as thinking one’s own view to be right and contrary views to be wrong, then everyone is arrogant – not just Christians.
As some of you may know, I am an advocate against the cultural tendency to willfully and purposely delay marriage late into our 20s or 30s. It is my conviction that this is a recipe for sexual immorality in the church, and that it is a contributing factor to Peter Pan Syndrome (20-, 30-, and 40-something men who are still acting and thinking like teenagers), since marriage—and the responsibilities that come with it—are a key part of the maturation process. So I was delighted to read Mark Regnerus’s article in Christianity Today, “
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Generally speaking, lying is when we present something as being true that is not actually true. And generally speaking, lying is a sin. But not every lie is a sin. Sometimes lying can be our moral obligation. Consider the scenario in which your moral obligation to protect life is pitted against your moral obligation to tell the truth. Protecting life is the weightier moral imperative of the two, and thus lying to protect that life would be the right thing to do. This happened frequently in Nazi Germany when those who harbored Jews lied to Nazi officers to protect the Jews’ lives.